Posted in mental health

Trying To Get Back To Me- Life Update

Hey friends, I know, I know, it’s been awhile…

I wanted to hop on and just do some free writing about what has been currently going on in my life and why I haven’t been blogging as frequently as I would like to.

If you read my series, Please Help Me A Feminine Healthcare Journey (you can find all three posts here) you all know I have been going through it this year. From the never ending cycles, the uterine cysts, endometriosis, and ultimately, surgery, I have not been feeling too great these past few months.

When I got my surgery, in my feeble little mind, I thought it would be the end of my problems- I would be healed, and I could continue life as normal. Being a person who has never been cut open before or dealt with any procedures such as the Ovarian Cystectomy I underwent in March, I didn’t realize how long it would actually take to recover. Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t the most horrible thing that’s ever happened to me, however, I just feel like I cannot get myself back on track. The most discouraging part about it all is now the pain is back with a vengeance out of nowhere. The last three days I haven’t been able to sleep, waking up in the middle of the night with excruciating pain in my uterus with a heavy, cramping, zapping feeling in my abdomen. I am once again back to snuggling the ol’ heating pad on my abdomen all day and night and popping Motrin like candy. This whole situation has completely f*cked with my life, from raging hormones, to physical and mental health, I truly have been suffering for a long time.

I sort of feel embarrassed to share my feelings of mental anguish and physical pain with others as this has been going on for such a long time, I feel as though people may begin to think I am milking the situation or making up bullsh*it stories looking for a pity party. Unless a person has gone through something similar, the sympathy starts to wear off, and you are expected to get back on your feet and hit the ground running, but I am tired, I am weak, I am not feeling all that well 99% of the time- whether it’s a mental thing or actually physical, I don’t know. However, what I do know is I want to get back to me again.

It’s been so long that I haven’t felt like “myself” that I feel like I am actually losing myself. The smallest tasks of every day life are seemingly a struggle for me on a daily basis, it’s almost as though I can’t keep up with the world around me anymore- I don’t feel like going and doing the things I need to do, hang out with friends or family due to the fact that I am so easily worn down and exhausted all the time. It’s very disheartening to say the least.

So much of what I used to enjoy I have now put on the back burner because I physically or mentally cannot even bear the thought of having to go through the process of any activity, cleaning, organizing, maintaining the house, cooking, self-care, blogging – you name it.

I want to get back to me, my old self, the girl who loved to do her nightly skin care routine, who took her vitamins every morning, and was daydreaming all day long about what blog post I was going to write next, among other things of course.

I feel as though most of the time it’s hard for others to understand what you are going through- “you seem depressed,” “you look tired,” “I can tell you aren’t feeling well” and I am. I don’t feel depression in any sense that I have ever felt before in my life, I would more describe it as feeling “blah.” Not happy, not sad, not even content, just existing. There are days when I don’t even want to turn on music and I just sit in silence and work until I feel like listening to a podcast- I’m just going with the flow of what I want to do, which is fine in some cases, but life is about doing things you don’t necessarily feel like doing and still doing it anyway.

I’m currently focusing very hard on my work as I started a new job in May in which I am a contracted employee for a faith based hospital system with multiple locations in the United States and I really hope that when my contract ends I get offered a permanent position. At this point in my life, I just want stability, while also having opportunities for growth and development in the workplace, and this company has been amazing thus far. I can really see myself growing and staying there a long time, if they will have me. The leadership has been awesome, unlike anything I have seen while working at previous jobs, and it truly seems like the team is happy to be there and enjoys their jobs, which is a great sign of an awesome work environment.

What I am really striving for at this point in time is getting better, healthier, and back to my old self again, and be even better than I was before.

I have already taken baby steps in my “back to wellness” journey- I started taking vitamins again, my husband and I started a great budgeting system to start saving for a house, I got an awesome new job that I love, I’ve begun to start doing small self-care routines again, my husband and I plan to go Keto again, and start taking walks… it may not be huge feats at the moment, but it is a step in the right direction. Even sitting here to write my first blog post in nearly a month is a big accomplishment.

At this time in my life, I am trying to be kind to myself, do my due diligence, and work on myself and that’s all I really can do for now. I know it may take some time, but I will get there a better, stronger, and healthier version of myself.

Posted in Nostalgia

“That’s Hot.” Makeup Products I Used In My 20s

January 2010

Please, Jesus, help me- this post is going to be way worse than my Makeup Products I Used In High School post.

Please believe me, I am laughing as hard as you are right now, and you have every right to laugh.

MTV’s hit show Jersey Shore had premiered on December 3, 2009, I had just turned 21 on December 14, 2009, and let me tell you worlds were rocked, wigs were snatched, and everyone wanted to be a Guido or Guidette, if you don’t believe me, go check your own photos from this time period.

I had to go perusing some old friend’s Facebook pages to even try and find a photo of me during this time frame, I am not sure where they are all at, maybe the attic, but after just having major surgery I will not be going up there to try and retrieve photos for this satirical yet historically accurate post.

So let’s take a look back at the makeup we used in late 2009 and 2010 to achieve the ultimate orange bronze glow, glitter on our body, sparkly eye look, heavy on the liner, we have all come to loathe!

Face:

I do not have a vivid memory as to what foundation I actually used back in these days, as I actually do not think I used one at all. I did, however, use a ton of concealer, pressed, powder, bronzer and blush.

I vividly remember using Hard Candy Glamoflauge Heavy Duty Concealer, this was a brand you could find at Walmart stores, however, I believe, I heard once that Hard Candy was an actual high-end brand sold at makeup counters in large department stores at one point. If anyone can confirm or deny this, please let me know in the comments!

Hard Candy Glamoflauge Heavy Duty Concealer

Of course this concealer was applied with the amazing triangle beauty sponges, DRY (internally screaming).

WHY.

After covering my under eye circles, cystic acne scars, and whatever imperfections I needed to address, I would give myself a generous powdering with my favorite go to pressed powder L’Oreal True Match Super Blendable Powder (with the sponge applicator provided in the packaging of course).

L’Oreal True Match Super Blendable Powder

The next product I would apply is a true gem to the makeup community and holds a special place in my heart forever, Too Faced Pink Leopard Blushing Bronzer…

Too Faced Pink Leopard Blushing Bronzer

At this point I had finally invested in some makeup brushes, my firsts included ecoTOOLS with bamboo handles- I actually believe I may still have one or two of these brushes still lying around, they are great quality and last forever.

I would use the largest facial brush and apply my bronzer oh so generously all over my face, with no regard for any contouring, my only goal was to achieve that beautiful orange, bronzed glow.

ecoTOOLS: My First Makeup Brush Set

My second bronzer of choice was Physicians Formula Shimmer Strips Custom Bronzer + Blush + Eye Shadow, and who doesn’t love a multipurpose product?!

Physician’s Formula Shimmer Strips Bronzer + Blush + Eye Shadow

The next product that you could always find on my makeup table or in my touch up bag was Too Faced Candlelight Glow powder. Now, to be 100% truthful with you, I had no idea what to do with this or how it worked or what it did. I will tell you that I did apply this very generously all over my face for touch ups.

Too Faced Candlelight Glow

My favorite blush was the Hard Candy Baked Blush in Living Doll, again found at Walmart. This was definitely one of those baked blushes that you had to scrape the top layer off of to get any pigment, but this bad boy lasted forever and packed a punch. Again, another product on the glittery shimmery side, but it was all about the shimmer back in 2009 (at least for me).

Hard Candy Baked Blush-Living Doll,

Eyes:

Too Faced’s Natural Eye Palette was the first high end, name brand eyeshadow palette I had ever owned, back in 2009. My bestie (hey Laida!) found these at Sephora, and we thought they were the sh*t, and we rocked the sh*t out of them. I can guarantee you that we both hit pan on “Silk Teddy” and “Nude Beach” very quickly in these palettes, it was definitely our go to all over eye color, I’m talking lid to brow bone coverage.

Too Faced’s Natural Eye Palette

I really loved these palettes so much, they came in a little cardboard box back in the day and there was a little pull-out drawer under the shadows that came with cards showing you where to apply certain colors to create the perfect eye look. I can tell you I certainly did not take the advice on these cards, but it is definitely a nice little touch on Too Faced’s behalf to at least try and teach its customers how to achieve a proper eye look.

Another personal favorite eyeshadow palette frequently used was the Physicians Formula Shimmer Strips custom Eye Enhancing Shadow & Liner. This stuff was the best, you got lots of different shades, shimmer and sparkle of course, and you could purchase it at Walmart for probably less than $10. Again, another multipurpose product, that was long-lasting, and a great little drugstore gem.

Physicians Formula Shimmer Strips custom Eye Enhancing Shadow & Liner

The eyeliner of choice was forever CoverGirl Perfect Point Plus Eye Pencil in Charcoal, on the top, bottom, and waterline of the eye, always.

Mascara of choice, the ever fabulous L’Oréal Voluminous Original Mascara in Carbon Black. I still absolutely love this mascara to this day and I always have one nice and handy in my makeup bag.

L’Oréal Voluminous Original Mascara-Carbon Black

Lips:

Lips were always kept cheap and simple, a shimmery gloss or a Wet n Wild $0.99 lipstick from Walmart; the lipstick game started to step up once we discovered Summer Love creamy lipstick by NYX.

Body:

I already know its bad and the risk factors and all that jazz, but the tanning salon was where it was at. How else was one supposed to acheieve an orange, bronzy, burnt glow with infinate freckles?

I decided to upgrade to a bronzing bed after using the regular tanning beds after a few years when I wasn’t getting enough bronze. My tanning lotion of choic was and always will be Australian Gold Cheeky Brown Accelerator Plus Bronzer indoor tanning lotion. I am imaginining the smell right now and it brings back memories of high school and tanning daily to get a nice base for vacation or prom.

Australian Gold Cheeky Brown Accelerator Plus Bronzer

Now, on top of our burnt, tan, orange, freckly skin we would apply Victoria’s Secret Bombshell Body Shimmer all over our chest to accentuate our cleavage, probably bought at the Victoria’s Secret Outlet Store or during the annual sale, this product was a must when going out to your favorite dive bar for the night.

To finish off the body, sprits on some Ed Hardy perfume for good measure.

I can’t even think about the fragrance of these ever again…

Hair:

So the last, and absolute final step to achieve the 2009/2010 going out is to put that straightener on the highest setting, never spray your hair with a heat protectant and just go to town straightining that mane.

Next youre going to tease the sh*t out of your crown area (which I had mine cut specifically for extra lift), spray with some Big Sexy Hair and then back comb it into a nice rats nest then go ahead and smooth out the top of your crown. Add any little bobby pins, head bands, or hair accessories- if you can’t acheieve full excellence on your own you may want to invest in a bumpit.

I hope you enjoyed this nostalgic post on the style trends and make up of the wonderful mid 2000’s, a time I like to fondly look back on and call “The Jersey Shore Days.”

Did you rock any of these looks? Were you as cool as me? Leave me a comment letting me know! I love to reading your comments on my nostalgia posts! Lets reminisce together!

I would like to dedicate this post to my bestie Laida, who lived these days with me and shared many free drinks at a really sh*tty local dive bar- love you pumpkin!

Posted in A Feminine Healthcare Journey

A Feminine Healthcare Journey-Resolution.

Yesterday, Tuesday, March 29, 2022, I finally had my long awaited surgery- A laparoscopy with incisions to remove my uterine cysts as well as taking a look inside my uterus to see what else was going on causing the pain and bleeding for so long.

In my last post, I mentioned prior to the surgery a blood test referred to CA125 test the standard range is <49 U/mL, my level was a reading of 102 U/mL. I messaged my doctor Monday morning to get some further answers regarding my high reading. My doctor got back with me right away and told me and explained that a level of 200 or 300 would be more related to ovarian cancer and my level of 102 was a high indication of the suspected endometriosis, which helped me breathe a little better, thankfully!

My procedure went well-my husband was told by my physician that I am in fact riddled with severe endometriosis, and lot was cut and burned out. My Fallopian tubes are very inflamed and there is an extremely low chance, well no chance, of ever having children. Both cysts were drained and sealed, so they will be unable to refill with debris or fluid. The left ovarian cyst was actually fused to my bladder, in which the doctor had to reconstruct part of my bladder wall due to the damage caused by the cyst.

I will be starting hormone blockers for six months which will be injections, 1 shot per month, so the endometriosis will subside from growing.

Today, I am very sore, in my abdomen as well as my throat as I was intubated, but other than that I am doing well.

I hope that in the future I have nothing but great updates to provide in my journey as I am now, hopefully, on the mend.

I do have a little gallery with two photos of my incisions, so please proceed with caution if you have a weak stomach for this type of imagery!

It’s honestly, not bad I promise!

Proceed With Caution

Thank you for your support, your stories of your own experiences, and I would also like to give a big fat shout out to my family, friends, and of course my husband, Sean, who have helped me though this journey. Without any of you, I don’t know where I would be. I love you all dearly.

Dedicated to:

Mommy

Aunt Shell

Chelsea

Laida

Chloe

Keri

Kellee

Aunt Ellen

Gramma

Meghan

Brenda

And of course my husband Sean

If you would like to have a cheeky little read on how we got to this point, please refer back to parts one and two of my Feminine Health Care Journey, linked below:

Please Help Me A Feminine Health Care Journey

Please Help Me A Feminine Health Care Journey Update

Posted in Our Wedding

Our Wedding Details-Small Touches To Personalize Our Special Day

You can go through all the wedding planning sites, magazines, and Pinterest boards you want, however, your special day is in fact-your special day.

When planning our wedding, things just fell into place naturally as we thought of them, and it truly made our day so special. There was a lot of meaning behind many of the things that we chose to do, and I would like to share with you those private details in hopes to inspire the newly engaged and or future brides to make sure that their wedding has special meaning to them.

It’s easy to get caught up in the perfect details, but always remember the day is about you and your soon-to-be forever partner, so make sure that you work as a team and make sure to pay homage to those little details that make the two of you and your relationship so special.

The Date

To me, my grandparents, AKA Nana and Papa, had the most beautiful love story of all. Married October 17, 1959, they managed to remain married through sickness and in health 53 years before my grandfather’s death in 2013.

I have always loved fall weddings and wanted to be married on the same date, however, in order to make that date work for us, we would have had to wait until 2025 (Friday) or 2026 (Saturday), so we opted for the closest date possible, Friday, October 15, 2021.

Bridal Gown

I have admired my grandmother’s wedding dress ever since I was a little girl. My grandparents had a beautiful oil painting made capturing them on the day of their wedding, and I knew that I wanted to have a dress with long lacy sleeves similar to my grandmother’s.

I found my dress at David’s Bridal, it was the first and only dress I tried on and bought it on a whim when I was shopping for dresses with my bridesmaid. I had found the dress pictured below on the David’s Bridal website (unfortunately, I believe, this dress is discontinued) and luckily the store had one on the floor I could try on, and I fell in love. I knew this was the dress for me, it was everything I was looking for and was a modern version of my grandmother’s dress, which I loved.

Bridal Tip: I remember my matron of honor telling me prior to trying on dresses to bear in mind that the store usually only has the largest size of the dress you are looking for, so do not be worried when you see what size they bring out, generally it is not going to be your size. The store associates will pull the dress back and clip it, so it fits your figure, then take your measurements and order you the proper dress size.

Oleg Cassini Shimmer Lace Long Sleeve Bridal Gown in Champagne
Papa & Nana 1959 – Amanda & Sean 2021 Adrienne & Amber Photography

The Venue

The selling point of our reception venue was the gorgeous stars and constellations on the ceiling of the ballroom. One of the things Sean and I bonded over in the beginning was zodiac signs; I am a Sagittarius and Sean is a Capricorn.

In the early days of getting to know each other, I was going through a breakup or two, and I had this nagging urge to go have my tarot cards read over Thanksgiving weekend in 2019. The woman reading my cards told me, “I see you with a Capricorn, you are going to meet him at work, and you will be together for a very long time.”

The only Capricorn I knew of and pretty much the only male in a female dominated office was Sean. At that point, we weren’t even that friendly-the only reason I knew he was a Capricorn was due to the fact I overheard him talking about it one to another coworker while fixing their computer.

Surely, I never thought Sean and I would end up together, let alone married one day! Once we started talking, I told him what the card reader had told me and his response was “I’m into that” and the rest is history.

We also loved the concept of dancing under the stars to what became to be “our song” Midnight, The Stars And You.

Ceremony Music

When I tell you I worked on the music for over a year and a half, I am not joking.

Of course, we had a DJ, however, I did want to have as much control over the music as possible for our ceremony as well as during cocktail hour and dinner.

At first, I started looking into different wedding ceremony playlists on Spotify, however I just kept coming up with the same cheesy quartet songs like “A Thousand Years” and I knew I wanted music that was more personal to Sean and I and gave deeper meaning to our ceremony.

I came across a group, Vitamin String Quartet, who did amazing instrumental music to both classic and modern songs (they even had a version of W.A.P). I started really digging into their catalog as well as other string quartet groups such as Midnite String Quartet and Tribute String Quartet and found the most perfect and beautiful soundtrack to our wedding ceremony.

Processional- These Days by Nico covered by Vitamin String Quartet

Flower Girl Entrance-Here Comes The Sun by The Beetles covered by Midnite String Quartet

Bridal Entrance-Stand By Me by Ben E. King covered by Tribute String Quartet

Recessional- Closing Time by Semisonic, covered by Vitamin String Quartet

Each song chosen had a very deep and personal meaning to me:

These Days by Nico released in 1967, most notably known for being in the 2001 Wes Anderson film The Royal Tenenbaums, first came into my plane of existence at a funeral. My cousin, David, father to my dear cousin Chloe, passed away from colon cancer in 2020, he was an avid movie and music buff and during his celebration of life service my cousin put together a beautiful playlist of songs and These Days was on the list. It is easily one of the most beautiful songs of the 1960s and is widely overlooked.

Being an avid Velvet Underground fan I was surprised I had never actually sat down and listened to the lyrics quite like I did at the funeral and the song perfectly sums up life and or the end of one’s life-

“I’ve been out walking
I don’t do too much talking
These days, these days
These days I seem to think a lot
About the things that I forgot to do
And all the times I had the chance to”

I come to tears every time I hear this song, not only for the loss in my family, but for the beautiful piece it truly is.

Here comes the Sun by The Beetles, written by George Harrison and was actually inspired by the long harsh winters endured in England, which he felt went on forever. However, the song has a different meaning for me…

I lost my only sibling, my brother, Jacob, almost nine years ago- I knew I would never become an aunt to any beautiful nieces or nephews biologically, and I swore I never thought I would get married. God had different plans, and I met Sean when his niece was fourteen months old. She is three years old now and will never remember a time in her life when “Aunt Amanda” was not around. She has single-handedly become one of the brightest rays of sunshine in my life, and I am so blessed to be her aunt.

The cover of the song is so beautifully performed and the lyrics, well they speak for themselves…

Little darling
It seems like years since it’s been clear
Here comes the sun
Here comes the sun,
And I say, It’s all right
Here comes the sun
Here comes the sun
It’s all right

I mean, what can be said about Ben E. King’s stand by me? It is an absolutely beautiful song that encompasses every aspect of remaining by your loved one’s side through the dark times and knowing that everything will be okay as long as you stand by me…

“When the night has come
And the land is dark
And the moon is the only light we’ll see
No, I won’t be afraid
Oh, I won’t be afraid
Just as long as you stand
Stand by me”

Closing Time by Semisonic is the ultimate 90s classic and of course can be heard as the last song playing at any bar on the planet during last call.

As popular in the bar scene as it may be, this song, of course, has a bit of a deeper meaning in my world. As I mentioned before I lost my brother almost nine years ago- Semisonic’s Closing Time was on the NOW THAT’S WHAT I CALL MUSIC VOLUME 2 CD which I proudly owned (released in 1998) and somehow my brother got his paws on it and played this song over, and over and over and over and over again, when he got his first CD player, thus causing an everlasting imprint on my brain having to turn it off at 3am when he fell asleep to it.

Not only was it the perfect song to close out our wedding ceremony, but I felt it was only right to use the song in a very important ode to my brother and acknowledging that even though he wasn’t physically there with us on our wedding day, he was there with me in my heart…

Closing time, time for you to go out
To the places you will be from
Closing time, this room won’t be open
Till your brothers or your sisters come

So, gather up your jackets, move it to the exits
I hope you have found a friend
Closing time, every new beginning
Comes from some other beginning’s end

Dinner/Cocktail Hour Playlist

I had a very specific vision as to what would be great music for cocktail hour and dinner. I wanted to make sure the music was of course meaningful but also upbeat and friendly for all generations.

I always loved listening to oldies with my grandparents in the car after lunch on Sundays after church, always begging my Papa to take us for a drive just to get a few extra quality time minutes in with my grandparents.

I opted for an “oldies” playlist, including lots of Motown (we are from the Motor City, after all) doo wop and hits from the 50s and 60s.

You can check out my dinner play list here.

Our First Dance

The song we chose for our first dance as a married couple is Midnight; The Stars And You by Al Bowlly, most notably known as the song that plays at the end of the film The Shining-one of our favorite horror movies.

Midnight; The Stars and You is also the last song that plays at the end of every Last Podcast On The Left episode (one of my favorite podcasts), which is where the idea of using that song as our first dance actually came to fruition.

I was listening to LPOTL one day at work (as one does) and I sent the song to Sean and asked him what he thought-he immediately replied “YES” and from then on it was set in stone that it was “our song.”

“Midnight with the stars and you
Midnight and a rendezvous
Your eyes held a message tender
Saying “I surrender all my love to you

Midnight brought us sweet romance
I know all my whole life through
I’ll be remembering you, whatever else I do
Midnight with the stars and you”

Father Daughter & Mother Son Dance

We opted to do a combination father daughter and mother son dance, the song that we chose is Heavenly Day by Patty Griffin.

I fell in love with this song when I first heard it in the Netflix series The Haunting of Hill House. In the series, Heavenly Day was the song the main character Nell dances to with her husband on their wedding day. I thought the song was so beautiful and becomes so haunting throughout the series.

The song lyrics are so beautiful and truly speak for themselves, especially on the day of a wedding…

“Oh, heavenly day
All the clouds blew away
Got no trouble today with anyone

The smile on your face, I live only to see
It’s enough for me, baby, it’s enough for me
Oh, heavenly day, heavenly day, heavenly day

Tomorrow may rain with sorrow
Here’s a little time we can borrow
Forget all our troubles in these moments so few

Oh because right now is only thing
That all that we really have to do
Is have ourselves, a heavenly day”

The Cake

Another thing Sean and I bonded over in the beginning of our relationship was healing crystals, minerals, and geodes. We spent many weekends going to different metaphysical stores looking for new specimens to add to our collections. Once we even bought a geode that we had to crack open ourselves- I told Sean to smash it with a hammer on my then desk, he warned me it was going to break the desk, I didn’t believe him, and… well we had to get rid of the desk once that bad boy was cracked open…

When searching for different styles of wedding cakes, we found these gorgeous style cakes that have carved out crevices that look like geodes. We opted for an amethyst look to go with our plum and gold wedding colors, however, upon entering the reception hall the first thing I laid my eyes on was a turquoise geode cake. I am not sure why and or how it ended up being turquoise, however, it still turned out beautiful and was truly a gorgeous focal point for our reception.

Custom gold cake topper created by Luxtomi on Etsy, you can find them here.

The Guestbook

In true horror movie fandom, our guestbook was custom designed by Sean and created by a seller on Etsy. It has a wooden front and back cover in which the famous pattern of the Overlook Hotel carpeting is burned into the front and back cover with a typewriter font that says Sean & Amanda Crosslin October 15, 2021.

Although, very few people seen or signed our guestbook as it was placed on a podium off to the side, it is a beautiful piece of memorabilia from our wedding that we absolutely love and another ode to one of our favorite horror films of all time.

Guestbook created by RedBerryGuestBooks on Etsy, you can find them here.

The Bouquet

I opted to have an artificial bouquet made in lieu of fresh flowers, so it would in fact last forever, and I could use it as a display piece in my home. These particular bouquets were made with eucalyptus and sola wood flowers, which are an extremely light wood derived from the plant Aeschynomene aspera that grows in wild marsh areas.

I found an amazing seller on Etsy who already and chose one of her previously designed bouquets as I loved the color palette she used- a lot of greenery with pops of lavender and plum as well as white. The plum did not overpower the bouquets and offset the bridal gown as well as the bridesmaids dresses and were an absolute perfect match. I also had boutonnieres made for the groom, groomsmen, and our fathers as well as corsages for our mothers matching the bridal and bridesmaids bouquets.

Bridal / bridesmaid’s bouquets, corsages and boutonnieres created by WildRoseFlowersDecor on Etsy, you can find them here.

All photos credited to Adrienne & Amber Photography, please check out their website here.

I hope you enjoyed some insight to our special day! I have been wanting to make this post for a while now, and I am so glad I finally am able to share the special details with you.

Look out for more wedding related content in the very near future!!!

Posted in nails

At Home Manicure Secrets: Long Lasting Glue On Nails

There is nothing in this world that makes me feel like a put together woman than having a nice manicure (and pedicure in the summer).

Even though I take supplements, I just can’t seem to keep nice natural nails. My nails bend and peel and break so easily, even polishes like shellac can’t help with my natural nail problems.

I have been wearing acrylics for years, and we all know that can become very time-consuming and extremely costly, and not to mention absolutely destroy your natural nails.

I am a little OCD when it comes to painting my own nails as well, and I find the drying time to be tedious only for them to chip a day or so later, no matter what brand I try.

I have also attempted nail wraps, and for some reason I cannot, in the slightest, ever get them on right!

So I’ve come to find a happy medium-applying my own glue on nails.

I will warn you that this process doesn’t help much with repairing the condition of your nails, however, if you are like me and experience the issues I do with my nails this has been the best alternative for me, personally.

I have been applying my own nails on and off for roughly four years and I have FINALLY found the perfect method to getting my glue on nails to remain intact for at least two weeks, and I would love to share it with you.

My Foolproof LONG LASTING Glue On Nail Method:

Step 1: Start Out With A Good Manicure

I always like to start with a good manicure prior to gluing on my nails. I like to make sure my natural nails are clipped down to a good length, filed, and excess cuticle taken care of.

We all know its not GREAT to clip your cuticles as it could potentially cause infection. This has happened to me on more than one occasion-from my own tools.

The official term for a cuticle infection is Paronychia which is caused by injury or irritation, such as a hangnail, cuticle damage, or continually wet hands (WebMD-Finger Infection).

Rather than clipping my cuticles I like to use a cuticle remover gel and then scrub the dead skin off with a nail cleaning brush, that way I do not need to push my cuticles back with any tools that could cause damage to my nail bed putting myself at risk for any time of infection.

There are two different cuticle removers that I have been using lately:

Prolinc be Natural Cuticle Eliminator is the product that I have been using for the longest. It is a nice gel consistency and does not cause any pain when applied to the cuticles.

I recently picked up the Ruby kisses Nail Treatment Cuticle Remover from a local beauty supply store and to be honest I like it a lot. The consistency is more of a liquid which is applied with a brush, just like a regular nail polish. Unfortunately, this product is a bit harsher than the Prolinc be Natural Cuticle Eliminator and tends to sting, so please beware if you purchase this product.

Step 2: Prep Your Natural Nails For Application Of False Nails

Make sure you wash and scrub your nails of any residue that may be left over from the cuticle eliminating products before you start this next step. You want to be sure that you don’t nick your nail beds or cut up your cuticles accidentally with the nail file, which could leave you prone to an infection.

I then take a coarse 100 grit nail file and rough up my nails, make sure to get every area of the nail that you can-this step will ensure the nail glue adheres to the natural nail and creates a stronger bond between the natural nail and the false nail.

You can purchase Beauty Secrets nail files at Sally Beauty for $1.09 a piece-extra bonus, they are both washable and double-sided.

After this step, I generously apply cuticle oil and rub it into my nail beds and all over my natural nails as this whole process can become very drying to your hands and again, you do not want any injury to your cuticles or nail beds, trust me!

I purchased the Ruby Kisses Nail Treatment Cuticle Oil with lemon at my local beauty supply store.

Step 3: Glue those nails on!

Again, make sure to give your hands a good wash with warm soap and water and give one more generous scrub with your nail cleaning brush, now you are ready to start applying those nails!

First, you want to make sure that you have the correct size nail before committing to gluing the false nail on.

False nails usually come in a box of 24, each size has two corresponding nails that are the same size. Now, you have to look very closely on the underside of the nail at the very tip, there will be a number-the lower the number, the larger the nail, the higher the number, the smaller the nail.

In my experience-most of the time, if a size 7 nail fits on one of your ring fingers, the same size will fit on both ring fingers. The only time this rule doesn’t apply is to my thumbs, as my left nail bed is smaller than my right nail bed.

Once you have your nail sizes sorted out, keep like sizes together. I set mine up in order from thumb to pinky, it makes it so much easier to quickly get the job done.

I cannot stress how important the next step is prior to gluing your nails on: make sure you apply rubbing alcohol to a cotton ball and clean your nails off, one last time.

This step ensures any oils or residue left over from your nail prep is completely gone. You don’t want to have left over bits of anything, hindering the bond between your natural nail and your false nail.

NOW YOU ARE READY TO APPLY THOSE BEAUTIFUL NAILS!!!

I have FINALLY FOUND THE HOLY GRAIL OF ALL NAIL GLUES:

You guys… I have been doing this little manicure trick for many, many, years and I have never gotten wear time for more than five days at most. I have tried so many products, and they just do not adhere nearly as well as this nail glue does.

I finally got the idea to do a quick little Amazon search and study up on what nail glues have the best reviews. I found the NYKI Nail Bond Brush On Glue For Acrylic nails had 4.5 stars and almost 10k reviews- I knew I had to try it.

Let me tell you, I have put this glue to the ultimate test-my trip to NYC, shopping, taking the subway, carrying luggage around everywhere, open and closing my backpack, constantly pulling my MTA Metrocard and debit card in and out of my wallet, not to mention digging around in my purse.

My nails were medium length sized which I never wear, and they did not budge. I even was able to continue wearing them for almost a week after! Even when it was time for me to change my nails, they were still STUCK on as if it was the day I applied them.

This nail glue is, obviously, a brush on and applies very evenly, and you can ensure every nook and cranny of your natural nail is evenly coated. It is also very important that you get an even coat of glue on your nails, so no air bubbles get trapped in between your natural nail and false nail-this could very well cause your false nail to pop right off.

Also, you want to make sure that you don’t apply too much glue as once you press that nail on the glue will seep out of the sides of the nail. Not only will the glue dry crusty around the nail, but you have a very strong chance that glue that seeped out could stuck on the finger you are pressing the nail on with, causing you to compromise the nail, and you’ll have to start the process on that finger all over again.

Your last step in the process is crucial-make sure you press that false nail on with a good amount of pressure to ensure that the nail adheres properly and flawlessly. Also, be very careful that you put the nails on as straight as possible, so you don’t have a wonky nail.

It will definitely take some practice gluing nails on yourself before you get them nearly flawless. I would be totally lying to you if at least one of my nails isn’t crooked at this very moment. Remember, your hands are sisters, not twins (or does that work for eyebrows only) and they are not going to be absolutely perfect, and that is okay! No one is going to be looking that closely at your hands to notice one little nail is a bit crooked!

Practice always makes perfect, so if you struggle a bit the first few times, just remember, we have all been there before, so don’t give up!

I suppose you are wondering where I purchase my false nails…

Check out my Pinterest board below and cop some of my favorite nails at a steal of a price:

I hope this tutorial-ish post inspired you to save some money and try doing your own manicure at home! Let me know in the comments if you guys have any tips or tricks for glue on nails / manicures, OR if you try this method. I love hearing from you guys and connecting with you!!!

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